In Luke 15 we find one of the most memorable stories of our faith, the Parable of the Prodigal Son. Chances are, even if you are not an avid church goer, you have heard of or read this story.
The younger son wants identity outside of the father’s household – he lives to satisfy the false self. So, this son pursues a life that seeks wholeness apart from the father and his standards. Yet, this path ends with the son becoming aware of his own brokenness and his lack of satisfaction.
Within it are many of the qualities that make following Jesus unique – grace, God’s faithfulness, mercy, and covering to name just a few. What makes this story of God so beautiful is that it is the father – the father who was wronged, disgraced, and sinned against – who waits for the son.
The father runs to the exhausted, repentant son.
The father forgives.
The father provides the sacrifice.
The father declares righteous.
The father clothes.
The father celebrates.
There is an oft overlooked character in this parable. He is treated as an insignificant addendum. The older son. The one who will inherit all that is left.
What if the father had left him in charge and given him the ability to speak on his behalf. How would the parable be different if these two brothers had interacted directly?
Adapting their words from the text of the parable:
Prodigal: “I have sinned against heaven and before our father. I am no longer worth to be called his son.”
Older: “Look these many years I have served him, and never disobeyed his command, yet he has never given me a young goat, that I might celebrate with my friends. But you devoured his property with prostitutes.”
Reading that, the next logical words out of the older brother’s mouth would be “Go away.”
The older judges the younger brother unworthy of grace. For the dutiful older brother, religious identity is about production and performance. Grace and forgiveness is earned. To that end, the younger brother has consumed and squandered.
The younger brother is not worthy of being part of the household any longer.
The older brother has a total lack of compassion. Though he would bristle at the suggestion, both he and his younger brother suffered from the same affliction.
Both attempted to create a sense of wholeness apart from the father. The younger brother did this very overtly, by taking the money and running. The older brother did this by doing everything ‘right’, creating his own sense of righteousness even while his heart stewed against his father’s decisions.
Both brothers were being led by their false selves.
Instead of compassion, the false self compares. The younger brother did not measure up to the older’s standards, heightening his own sense of righteousness and providing validation to his religious false self.
What does this mean for us?
Our tendency is toward exclusion and we must guard against becoming an older brother in the faith, making people first live by our standards before we extend a merciful hand to them.
Christ walked humbly, counting our eternal lives more significant that his life.
Paul reminds us not to forget from where we came.
Then we will not make people earn our grace, but we will be able to dole it out joyfully.
Redemption and restoration are, after all, the best parts of the gospel story.
Are you in the way of grace in someone’s life?
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