All About That Bass

I’ll admit it, I like the Meghan Trainor song All About That Bass. It is on my iPhone. It’s catchy and I can sing and dance to it (thought that is something none of you will ever see – you can thank me when you see me). Also, I do appreciate the message of the damaging affects of comparison. (See What Comparison Does) Comparison erodes our sense of who we are and deprives us all of dignity. Those around us are deprived of their humanity by our using them as a measuring stick for our worth and significance. Our self is eroded because comparison causes us to live in a constant state of dissatisfaction. When we live in comparison, we can not develop healthy self-acceptance. (See What is Acceptance?) Church leaders compare the size of their churches to those around them, or to the mega-church that they’d like to be. Church leaders compare their leadership style to that of others, and end up trying to be something they are not. Church leaders compare their spouses to the Proverbs 31 or some other ideal, and the spouse feels the weight of that expectation. There is always something else to compare. But, here is the thing about the song’s message… Every inch of me is NOT perfect, from the bottom to the top. Many of us eat for comfort. That is not perfect. Many of us seek to control others. That is not perfect. Many of us make decisions at the expense of others. That is not perfect. Our tendency to compare is a symptom of the false self (the old nature)...

Shattering the Image

Hand crafted in the image of the Creator, experiencing no shame, the man and woman were left to tend the garden God had placed them in. For an unknown amount of time, the two of them lived in this idyllic state. Until the Lie. A serpent appears on the scene with the ability to talk. Myself, I hate snakes. Since I can never remember if it is “yellow on black, better step back” or “red on black, friend of Jack” or “red on yellow, you’re a dead fellow”, I just play it safe and avoid them all. Much more so a snake that could talk.   But that bit of wisdom was not available to our happy couple and they engage the crafty serpent in conversation. This serpent is intent on spreading a Lie; God held back on them, He really did not have their best interest at heart and could not be trusted. They were really less valuable then they were going around thinking. There was something they were still lacking if they were going to be complete.   The Lie was that there was something in addition to God that would make them whole.   Sound familiar? The enemy convinced God’s image bearers that they were incomplete and not fully acceptable. It is the same Lie that all of us at some point believe. It is the source of our false self and it comes in a million forms. “I am not wanted.” “I am not lovable.” “God is nowhere to be found.” “I am unnoticed.” “I am defective.” This list could go on and on.  ...

What Comparison Does

Not too long ago, I had the pleasure of getting to know one of my volunteer leaders. She was telling me of the hobby of water color painting that she had taken up in the last couple years. As she talked about her art and how she gave her work to special people as a gift of herself, her face lit up with pure enjoyment. It was special to watch. Within our conversation, I asked her about the learning process. Among the first things she mentioned was the frustration she would feel having completed a project. Her flowers never looked the way they should. Her scenes did not turn out right. It took the repeated, trusted advise of her teacher to come to realize that she saw things, and painted things, differently. And that was OK. Comparison destroys freedom. In art, the freedom comparison destroys is creativity. In the spiritual life, comparison destroys the freedom to become who God intends for you to be. To run the race set before you. One of the ways the Bible refers to comparison is to covet. Coveting usurps our freedom. When we covet, we become slaves to what we do not have. That new car. Free time. A different body. More kids. A spouse. Popularity. A larger church or ministry. Vacation. We miss the work that God is doing in our lives, the path He has us on, because we are too busy comparing ourselves with others. Elsewhere in the Bible comparison is seen as judging. Humorously illustrated by the person who tries to take a sliver of wood out of someone’s eye...

What is Identity?

What change do you want to make in your leadership, relationships, discipleship or life? This video briefly talks about the first necessary step to improving confidence, energizing discipleship, improving leadership, avoiding burnout, and improving involvement among a church’s congregation. What is Identity? from Scott Perkins on Vimeo.  Grab the What is Identity worksheet here. I work with pastors and the people they lead to energize discipleship and improve leadership development. I am a certified coach specializing in pastoral leadership, relationships, life transitions, and Christian identity. Services I offer are one-on-one coaching, group/staff coaching,  speaking at organizations/churches, leadership workshops, and church retreats. For more info, click here to contact...

Kiss Anxiety Goodbye

The November issue of Healthy Living magazine contains an article I wrote about anxiety and a healthy step everyone can and should make to overcome it. In Christ we have the power. Our leadership and relationships flourish when not controlled by anxiety. Emotionally, physically, and spiritually our lives will improve as well. Anxiety in our culture is a chronic condition. A reality of life that we simply have grown to accept as a normal by-product of life lived in ever-changing western culture. Because it has become our normal operating state, we obediently comply with what our anxiety is driving us to do hoping the feeling will go away. Despite our compliance, anxiety is not normal. It is uncomfortable emotionally, destructive physically, and distracting spiritually. Anxious energy becomes burdensome for our relationships. What’s worse, the feeling of anxiety is not something we can simply ‘just stop’ doing. The harder we try to not be anxious will, in fact, create more anxiety. It becomes a vicious cycle of captivity. Yet, with all this said, experiencing anxiety can be a gift. I say this because anxiety is a symptom that something is not right, and if we can take a moment to examine its source, then we stand a much better chance of not only avoiding the feeling, but having the ability to grow emotionally and spiritually and experience more relational health. For most of us, the key to beating anxiety is to develop an awareness of our identity. For the rest of the Healthy Living article, CLICK HERE. I work with pastors and the people they lead to energize discipleship and...

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